QuestionWhy do his victims feel they are turning into narcissists themselves?AnswerNarcissism is contagious. The narcissism creates a "bubble universe", similar to a cult. In this bubble, special rules apply.These rules do not always correspond to outer reality.Using complex defence mechanisms, such as projective identification, the narcissist forces his victims - spouse, mate, friend, colleague - to "play a role" assigned to him by "God" - the narcissist.The narcissist rewards compliance with his script and punishes any deviation from it with severe abuse.In other words, the narcissist CONDITIONS people around him using intimidation, positive and negative reinforcements and feedback, ambient abuse ("gaslighting"), covert, or controlling abuse, and overt, classical abuse.Thus conditioned, the narcissist's victims gradually come to assimilate the narcissist's way of thinking (follies a-deux) [sic] and his modus operandi - his methods.You can abandon the narcissist - but the narcissist never abandons you.He is there, deep inside your traumatic memories, lurking, waiting to act out. You have been modified, very much like an alien snatching bodies.
Obama Following In Hitler’s Footsteps
It is important to remember that, for some time before 1933, Germany had reached a stage in which it had, in effect, had to be governed dictatorially… Hitler did not have to destroy democracy; he merely took advantage of the decay of democracy and at the critical moment obtained the support of many to whom, though they detested Hitler, he yet seemed the only man strong enough to get things done.